Many years ago I knew this guy who was (I’m 100% convinced) a real life sociopath.
This person was unbelievably shady and manipulative.
I could tell you hundreds of stories about the sketchy things he got up to.
The funny thing about this guy is he always, always had a sob story.
These stories were endless.
And after dealing with other possible sociopaths I realized something.
Elicitation of empathy is basically the primary form of manipulation used by these people.
From the get go they will attempt to tug on your heart strings.
There’s always a story they use to make you feel sorry for them.
And once you give in that’s when they pounce.
Another good example of this is homeless people.
Now, I’m not hating on the homeless.
Many of them have genuine problems and cannot fend for themselves.
But what I’m trying to say is that you shouldn’t be naïve.
A lot of these people are absolute predators.
The guy who tells you about his pregnant wife who has to turn tricks so that they can survive…and…who incidentally also has brain cancer…well…there’s a good chance he’s lying.
The bottom line is that you should be careful around people with sob stories.
Always keep your guard up.
Yes they may genuinely need help.
But a lot of the time you’re dealing with a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
P.S. The elicitation of empathy is the primary technique used by sociopaths to manipulate people. If you’re dealing with someone who always has a sob story…well…there’s a good chance they may be bona fide sociopath.