THE MAGIC CIRCLES THAT CURE ANXIETY, STRESS, AND WORRY

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is a self-help book first published way back in 1989

It’s famous for being one of the most successful personal development books ever published…

…and has sold more than 25 million copies to date.

(If you haven’t read this book then do yourself a favor and put it on your list).

It’s packed with dozens of nuggets of timeless wisdom.

The most powerful of these is a concept known as the circles of concern and control. This concept is fairly easy to understand. It basically states that you should stop worrying about things which are outside of your control. If something doesn’t directly affect or concern you then simply stop caring about it. One area where you can immediately put this into practice is the news.

You see, there’s no denying that we live in a crazy world.

But one of the best things you can do is to simply stop caring.

This is harder said than done.

After all, the news is highly addictive.

In fact, most people start their days by consuming some type of news media.

Instead focus 100% on your life and your business.

Concern yourself only with things you can directly control.

While this might seem like a trite piece of advice it really isn’t.

Far too much of our mental energy is taken up with things that don’t affect us.

But the unfortunate reality is that success takes enormous amounts of hard work.

This means you absolutely cannot afford to waste your time on things that don’t matter…

…and are beyond your control.  

Bottom line:

Turn off the news…

Stop worrying…

…and start working on your life.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT (QUICKLY)

There was a time when I was massively overweight.

Obviously I wanted to do something about this.

(After all, no one wants to be FAT).

But, like most people, I found it extremely difficult to lose weight.

Despite starting a serious exercise program I struggled to make progress.

Then I read one of those stupid, “5 tips to burn fat” articles that are plastered all over the web.

One of those tips was keeping a food journal.

In case you don’t know, this is basically a diary where you write down what you eat.

I did this for a month then looked back over the entries.

After reading these I was both stunned and appalled.

The amount of food I ate was incredible.

Not only that, almost everything I ate was junk food.

I basically lived on garbage like chips, pizza, hot dogs and fast food.

At this point I immediately changed my eating habits.

And from there on out started steadily losing weight.

What’s the point of telling you all this?

Simply that if you want to change something start tracking it.

Whether this is spending less money, losing weight or learning a new skill.

By tracking your habits you will immediately take control of them…

…and start to gradually improve things.

After all, to quote management guru Peter Drucker…

“What gets measured gets managed.”

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

HOW SOCIOPATHS MANIPULATE PEOPLE

Many years ago I knew this guy who was (I’m 100% convinced) a real life sociopath.

This person was unbelievably shady and manipulative.

I could tell you hundreds of stories about the sketchy things he got up to.

The funny thing about this guy is he always, always had a sob story.

These stories were endless.

And after dealing with other possible sociopaths I realized something.

Elicitation of empathy is basically the primary form of manipulation used by these people.

From the get go they will attempt to tug on your heart strings.

There’s always a story they use to make you feel sorry for them.

And once you give in that’s when they pounce.

Another good example of this is homeless people.

Now, I’m not hating on the homeless.

Many of them have genuine problems and cannot fend for themselves.

But what I’m trying to say is that you shouldn’t be naïve.

A lot of these people are absolute predators.

The guy who tells you about his pregnant wife who has to turn tricks so that they can survive…and…who incidentally also has brain cancer…well…there’s a good chance he’s lying.

The bottom line is that you should be careful around people with sob stories.

Always keep your guard up.

Yes they may genuinely need help.

But a lot of the time you’re dealing with a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

P.S. The elicitation of empathy is the primary technique used by sociopaths to manipulate people. If you’re dealing with someone who always has a sob story…well…there’s a good chance they may be bona fide sociopath.