PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ZOMBIE’S

I was watching a Tony Robbins interview the other day…

At about the halfway mark he said this:

“I’m not here to have an argument with my brain.”

I think most people can relate to this. Whenever we have to do something (whether it’s exercising, eating less, or breaking bad habits) we tend to get into arguments with ourselves. The one side of us knows that we have to take action…

…but the other side resists.

Whether it’s through fear, laziness, anxiety, or simply the unwillingness to change…

…our mind slams the brakes on.

But in order to get anywhere in life you have to stop doing this.

You have to learn how to turn off your thoughts and do what needs to be done.

You have to put yourself on autopilot and become a mindless personal development Zombie.

I’ve experienced this in my own life.

At one stage I wanted to start taking daily walks.

I was slightly overweight and knew that I had to get more exercise.

And although I did start to develop the habit it was still hard as hell.

I’d sit there having an argument with myself…

“Should I do it?”

“No I’m too tired…”

“You have to do it…”

“Today was really tough…”

Etc. etc. and so on.

It was only when I started to turn my brain off and get out of the house no matter what…

…that I managed to hit this habit with 100% accuracy.

The point is this:

Don’t get into arguments with your brain.

Stop thinking about what you have to do.

Simply decide what needs to be done…

… turn your mind off…

…and get going.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

WANT TO BE A FREELANCE WRITER? DO THIS FIRST

I’ve had a lot of success in this business.

On the other hand, there were times when things went pear shaped

One thing I’ve learnt about freelance writing is that it definitely goes in cycles.

One minute you’re swamped with work…the next it’s crickets.

On top of this, clients come and go.

And in my experience this usually happens at the worst moment possible.

What you also have to realize is this:

Freelancing is, by its nature, a highly unstable business model.

It’s really a thing of feast or famine.

So if you’re just starting out (or you have hopes of doing this one day) then here’s a massive piece of advice: start building up your emergency fund.  You’ve probably heard it said that you should have at least 3-6 months of living expenses saved. This is good advice, but a year is even better. In fact, you should actually go beyond this, and save up as much money as possible.

What’s more, learn to spend within your means.

Don’t blow every cent that you make

Better yet, create products which you can sell as a sideline to your freelancing career.

The bottom line is this:

You need a bankroll that will help you ride out the bad times.

Do this and you’ll survive long enough to make writing into a viable career.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

P.S. Another big advantage of a bank roll is that it helps you deal with deadbeat clients. If you have money saved up then it’s very easy to dump a crummy client. On the other hand, if you’re desperate for money then you’ll have to take whatever you can get…

WHY I WRITE ABOUT PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT TOPICS

If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time…

…you may have noticed I write a LOT about personal development.

But why is this…

Am I some kind of self-help guru?

(A Tony Robbins wannabe).

No, the reason why is much simpler.

You see, in order to have any type of success, you basically have to become a better person.

This is unavoidable.

And it’s especially true if you’re trying to launch some type of internet business.

It’s not enough to simply learn the ins and outs of entrepreneurship.

No, if you’re going to be more successful, then you often have to change yourself on a fundamental level. You have to learn how to manage your time, set and achieve goals, become more disciplined, and smash through the mental barriers which are holding you back.

Unless you do this it’s impossible to get anywhere.

Instead, you’ll waste time, make excuses for your failures, and procrastinate.

To a lot of people this might sound simple, redundant and even corny.

That’s understandable.

Self-help is a dorky subject.

But if you continue to think this way, it’s unlikely you’ll ever achieve anything.

On the other hand, if you’re a person who truly wants to get somewhere in life…

…then personal development is an absolute prerequisite.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton  

THE MAGIC CIRCLES THAT CURE ANXIETY, STRESS, AND WORRY

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is a self-help book first published way back in 1989

It’s famous for being one of the most successful personal development books ever published…

…and has sold more than 25 million copies to date.

(If you haven’t read this book then do yourself a favor and put it on your list).

It’s packed with dozens of nuggets of timeless wisdom.

The most powerful of these is a concept known as the circles of concern and control. This concept is fairly easy to understand. It basically states that you should stop worrying about things which are outside of your control. If something doesn’t directly affect or concern you then simply stop caring about it. One area where you can immediately put this into practice is the news.

You see, there’s no denying that we live in a crazy world.

But one of the best things you can do is to simply stop caring.

This is harder said than done.

After all, the news is highly addictive.

In fact, most people start their days by consuming some type of news media.

Instead focus 100% on your life and your business.

Concern yourself only with things you can directly control.

While this might seem like a trite piece of advice it really isn’t.

Far too much of our mental energy is taken up with things that don’t affect us.

But the unfortunate reality is that success takes enormous amounts of hard work.

This means you absolutely cannot afford to waste your time on things that don’t matter…

…and are beyond your control.  

Bottom line:

Turn off the news…

Stop worrying…

…and start working on your life.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT (QUICKLY)

There was a time when I was massively overweight.

Obviously I wanted to do something about this.

(After all, no one wants to be FAT).

But, like most people, I found it extremely difficult to lose weight.

Despite starting a serious exercise program I struggled to make progress.

Then I read one of those stupid, “5 tips to burn fat” articles that are plastered all over the web.

One of those tips was keeping a food journal.

In case you don’t know, this is basically a diary where you write down what you eat.

I did this for a month then looked back over the entries.

After reading these I was both stunned and appalled.

The amount of food I ate was incredible.

Not only that, almost everything I ate was junk food.

I basically lived on garbage like chips, pizza, hot dogs and fast food.

At this point I immediately changed my eating habits.

And from there on out started steadily losing weight.

What’s the point of telling you all this?

Simply that if you want to change something start tracking it.

Whether this is spending less money, losing weight or learning a new skill.

By tracking your habits you will immediately take control of them…

…and start to gradually improve things.

After all, to quote management guru Peter Drucker…

“What gets measured gets managed.”

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

HOW SOCIOPATHS MANIPULATE PEOPLE

Many years ago I knew this guy who was (I’m 100% convinced) a real life sociopath.

This person was unbelievably shady and manipulative.

I could tell you hundreds of stories about the sketchy things he got up to.

The funny thing about this guy is he always, always had a sob story.

These stories were endless.

And after dealing with other possible sociopaths I realized something.

Elicitation of empathy is basically the primary form of manipulation used by these people.

From the get go they will attempt to tug on your heart strings.

There’s always a story they use to make you feel sorry for them.

And once you give in that’s when they pounce.

Another good example of this is homeless people.

Now, I’m not hating on the homeless.

Many of them have genuine problems and cannot fend for themselves.

But what I’m trying to say is that you shouldn’t be naïve.

A lot of these people are absolute predators.

The guy who tells you about his pregnant wife who has to turn tricks so that they can survive…and…who incidentally also has brain cancer…well…there’s a good chance he’s lying.

The bottom line is that you should be careful around people with sob stories.

Always keep your guard up.

Yes they may genuinely need help.

But a lot of the time you’re dealing with a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Cheers,

Alastair Walton

P.S. The elicitation of empathy is the primary technique used by sociopaths to manipulate people. If you’re dealing with someone who always has a sob story…well…there’s a good chance they may be bona fide sociopath.